Evan has always been really good about helping ME with Alex if I need him to grab something or give Alex something but that has always been with me asking. The things that he has been doing for Alex lately have been all him.
We are very adamant about giving Alex choices (since he is non-verbal and cannot tell us) so Evan has been really good about bringing Alex his choices and letting him choose.
The other night I was working with Alex on his colors and I was using markers to see if he would pick the correct one. When I was done, Evan came up and took over and was working with Alex the way I was.
He also helped him open his fruit snacks the other day and then last night was the icing on the cake for me. When the boys come home from school the first thing we do is wash our hands and have a snack. Evan got done with his snack first and instead of going into his playroom he went down to the family room. I was cleaning Alex up and getting ready to take him down, when I see Evan laying the blanket down on the floor for Alex so he could stretch out. As I was coming down the stairs, I passed Evan coming up and when he came back down he had an armful of toys for Alex to play with.
Tears welled up in my eyes. I couldn't believe it! I praised him and thanked him for doing that for Alex and told him what a great Brother he is.
I hope his love and devotion to Alex never goes away and I hope that he will go out of his way to helps others in need as well.
I know it isn't easy for Evan not having the playmate he desires in Alex, I just hope that their love and bond will always be there. They need each other even though they may not realize that now.
I have mentioned in the past that Alex has a different "buddy" each day at school and the teacher decided to go in alphabetical order to give every kid a chance. Well, Evan is last alphabetically in the class and he was so upset that he had to go last. I kept telling him that he is Alex's buddy everyday! Well, a couple of weeks ago, Evan's day came and he got to be Alex's buddy. The first thing he said to me when he stepped off the bus was: 'I got to be Alex's buddy today'. He was so proud.
Evan, I am proud of you. You have no idea how much you mean to all of us, but especially Alex. He looks up to you and is so lucky to have you.
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